Manifest Like Goddess, Module 20
GOALS FOR THIS MODULE:
Understand the power of speaking your truth.
Practice using positive and direct speech.
Create awareness of when you are making yourself small.
Create awareness of when triggers arise and what to do about them.
Begin aligning and healing the Throat Chakra.
Speak YOur tRuth
This week’s focus is on speaking your truth. The spoken word is one of the most powerful tools we possess. Speaking your truth aloud and allowing others to be witness to that is much like intentional spell casting. When you speak words into existence, you are creating your reality and your future experiences.
Say What You Mean
When you state your true feelings and desires, you are showing up fully in your authenticity and helping other people determine whether they can align with you.
There is a cultural standard in place that encourages holding back when it comes to stating who you are and what it is that you believe, want and need. It can feel unsafe to be honest about how you feel or what you truly want, because it means you must get vulnerable. In not allowing your true desires to be known to others, you also hide them from yourself. This is a challenge for the ego that will never completely dissolve, but it will get easier with practice.
Saying what you mean is a practice in finding peace within. It may initially feel uncomfortable to acknowledge your own true desires and communicate them. But I assure you, there is peace on the other side of this practice.
Often, it can feel dangerous to speak your truth because it may create conflict with the people in your life. If conflict with others feels like rejection to you, then abandonment issues can rear their ugly head and make it seem impossible to fully show up authentic. It can be downright scary.
Revealing your vulnerable self becomes the most challenging when you have become emotionally triggered. In fact, it is much easier to cast blame in those moments and move into in a fight or flight response because it happens without thought. This practice asks you to catch yourself in those moments and choose something different. You are not doing yourself any favors repeating this vicious cycle.
In conflict, it is much easier to lash out and run away from the problem by pretending we’re OK, or blocking communication rather than communicating our hurts. And usually, the conflict we are experiencing is a trigger of a very old wound. We covered this concept in the module, Detachment.
Not only is this cycle a disservice to yourself, it is also unfair to those around you. If you don’t speak your truth, you will essentially create a false reality for your loved ones and they will make decisions based on that false reality you have created by not being honest about how you feel, and those decisions will never be good for them or for you.
Focus on What You Want
We are manifesting whether we like it or not. The key is to focus on what you want, not on what you don’t want. Your words must reflect that. For example: I don’t want to lose (fill in the blank). This is a clear focus on the negative. What do you want? State that instead.
This doesn’t mean that you should stuff your feelings. It’s important to honor your all of feelings, but it’s also incredibly important to communicate your desires in a positive way.
Choose positive, direct speech over passive, negative speech. This speeds up your manifesting timeline. You can actually feel the difference in your body when you change your language.
And don’t get freaked out over negative thoughts. You will never have full control over the mind. But with practice, your thoughts will begin to align with your desires and you will experience an organic shift toward focusing on your true desires and the negativity will begin to fall away.
It is important to understand that I am not telling you to ignore your inner dialogue that is consistently telling you something you don’t want to hear. Consistent messages from your inner voice is an indicator that a part of you needs to be heard. This is not to be ignored. Your inner voice is made up of your shadow side and also the purest aspect of you. Both aspects are important. If you suppress either, you will eventually suppress them both.
Write down 5 things you want to change about your life. Look at the words on the paper. Are there any negative words you can remove? Have you written what you don’t want? Have you written passively? If so change your list to reflect positivity in an active voice and include all the things you want, leaving out what you don’t want.
Think about the last time you held back your true feelings, wants and needs from an important person in your life. Close your eyes and go back to that moment. What did it feel like in your body to withhold your truth? Write that down. Now write down what you would like to say instead and say it aloud as many times as it takes to feel the physical energy of that statement. What does this new statement feel like in your body?
Think about the last time you found yourself in a triggered state. What happened? Write it down. Did communication shut down? Was the issue revisited later? If so, how was it handled? How could you have handled that situation differently?
Look in the mirror and speak aloud the 5 items you came up with. Say them to yourself in the mirror every day during this module practice. This practice will help you remember to communicate to others what you want rather than what you don’t want.
This week, practice choosing positive, direct speech over passive, negative speech. This will speed up your manifesting timeline. The key is to catch yourself when you have stated your desire as a complaint. Enlist your loved ones to help call you out. You will feel the difference in your body when you change your language.
Triggers: When you find yourself being triggered into a fight, flight or freeze response, say to yourself or the person involved, “I have been triggered. I need some time for reflection.” Then take a few minutes alone to ask yourself, “What do I need to know about how I am feeling in this moment?” Allow the answer to come without analyzing. This practice will give you insight into how what is going on inside of you is manifesting in your external reality.
Click below to access the Throat Chakra Meditation. You will need earbuds in order to get the desired effect. Give yourself ample time to listen all the way through and then journal your experiences.
Congratulations on finishing Module 20. Give yourself two weeks for self-discovery based on what you’ve learned. Then, continue on to Module 21.
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